Oct 7, 2020
I am so excited to welcome you to the 50th episode of the She Doesn’t Settle podcast, quite a milestone to reach given everything that we’ve all had to deal with in 2020 so far. To celebrate, I have a very important topic to discuss - in fact it was the main topic of my recent Ascend Mastermind retreat - and it’s one which is always relevant, but particularly so for this past year: resilience. Identifying our own resilience and understanding the ways it impacts so many aspects of your life is crucial, and that is precisely what we will undertake in this very special episode.
I’ll start by defining resilience, demonstrating the difference in people who have or don’t have it, and we’ll look at a couple of studies that have been done about it. I’ll explain growth mindset and the two ways resilience is derived, as well as present some examples of questions you need to ask yourself, and emphasize the importance of having and utilizing a support system. Much of the episode is devoted to exploring the 5 things that contribute to resilience that you may not usually consider, and I also share some personal stories from my own life to help illustrate some of the information shared. If 2020 has taught us anything, it is the need for resilience when facing challenges, and I hope that the ideas and advice presented here today will help you to flex your resilience muscles, and not simply survive difficult times, but to thrive within and beyond them.
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The Finer Details of This Episode:
- Defining resilience
- The differences in people with and without resilience
- An Ohio State University study on resilience
- What makes a person resilient
- Growth mindset
- The two ways that resilience is derived
- Asking yourself questions about your resilience
- A study published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology
- The importance of having and utilizing a support system
- 5 things that contribute to resilience
Quotes:
“In a sense, resilience is basically doing really well when you shouldn’t be.”
“It’s about growing even during that down time, and it can be life changing in many ways.”
“What is important to acknowledge is that it’s a process, and we have to cultivate some of those strengths and we have to tap into what we know our weaknesses are and grow those as well.”
“Part of resilience is being comfortable being uncomfortable.”
“Americans overestimated their resilience by a lot.”
“If we don’t recognize that we have these weaknesses, if we’re ignoring them, we’re going to get tripped up when we are faced with a challenge, big or small.”
“If we work on the things that we’re weaker at, and we continue to grow the things that we’re strong in, we’re going to beef up those resilient muscles.”
“We want to minimize the control that fear has over us by managing that mind, regulating our emotions.”
“Being resilient is about how quickly you can bounce back.”
“Figure out what you need to ask yourself.”
“Resilience is not a solo job.”
“This is about, in the space you’re in, looking for some of the good.”
“We have to really let go of some of the criticism and the judgment and the berating we do of ourselves in the middle of a mess.”
“We can learn to trust ourselves in just little ways.”
“Focus on what you can control, and let go of what you can’t.”
“We have to be present to move through what is right in front of us.”
“You are capable, and you are powerful, and you have everything you need inside of you to overcome what gets thrown your way.”
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