Oct 28, 2020
Today’s topic, self-trust and how to build it, is one that I have been anxious to discuss with all of you for a while now, and which is particularly important these days, I feel. One thing that really bothers me lately is the fact that so many forces are at work to diminish our level of self-trust, generating a tendency to rely upon outside sources, programs, systems or products instead of our own instincts, our own gut feeling, when making decisions about our own lives. We really need to pause and examine how this may be showing up for each of us, and look at some ideas that can help us regain our trust in ourselves going forward.
I begin by looking at the impact that culture, society and marketing have upon our sense of self-trust and satisfaction, walking you through some ways to build that trust back, and inviting you to see which one resonates with you and to test it out. Along the way, I recommend revisiting a previous episode about boundaries if you think that would prove beneficial, explore some studies about the hippocampus and creating neuro growth within it, and the dangers inherent in an ‘all or nothing’ attitude. Woven throughout is the message that you are your own CEO and you have the power of choice regarding how you live your life. It’s time to take back control and start listening to our intuition, our gut feelings, and begin trusting ourselves again.
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The Finer Details of This Episode:
Quotes:
“The problem with seeking advice is that it often pushes away what you already know to be true. And when we look outside of ourselves for answers, it actually creates more confusion.”
“We are all unique individuals, and we all need different things to operate and feel our best, and to be successful, and we shouldn’t all want the same thing, right?”
“If you’ve been so programmed to rely on systems and processes, diets and exercise programs that other people create, then you’re never going to think for yourself…you’re going to think that you can’t be successful on your own, and I think that’s bullshit.”
“A lack of faith or belief in ourselves shows up in the way we make ourselves do things. It really is the difference between being your own BFF and being your own worst enemy or critic.”
“Not everything I share is going to resonate - pieces of it might resonate…you can take what you want and leave the rest.”
“We have to be committed to ourselves more than other people.”
“Think about who you surround yourself with, who you look to for answers. Are there individuals that you can cut out?”
“It takes away some of that fear of failure because we have memories of things we’ve overcome, times we’ve been vulnerable and we’ve been okay.”
“We can’t rationalize intuition, but that is what so many of us try to do, and it’s why we struggle to listen to it, to tune into it.”
“If we sit with a feeling for 90 seconds instead of pushing it away, it will eventually leave.”
“Trust your gut.”
“If everything is so serious and there’s no fun, it’s going to lead to rebellion, and that’s what ultimately leads you to not trust yourself.”
“Those companies, those programs, make tons of money on the fact that they know that you don’t trust yourself and you’re going to rely on them for a hot minute until it doesn’t work anymore.”
“The more we can start to trust ourselves, the more we can trust others.”
“It’s only a failure if we don’t
do anything with it.”
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